Here are some tips for men on TBW to get the best results from the site:

• Do read the woman’s profile and comment on something in it. You’ll win points if you can prove you’ve read it and are not just using the scatter-gun approach.
• Do establish an exchange of messages before suggesting chatting.
• Do take no for an answer with good grace. Don't react with insults – she may come back to you later.
• Don’t put up a photo of your car, your bike, your baby [yes men do that more often than women!] you and your ex girlfriend or you in a group of friends [how will we know who you are?!] It’s just you we want to see!
• Don’t upload a photo of your penis, ever. It won't be approved and actually women do not want to see it. And don't use a pic of your headless torso as your photo. We want to see your face!
• Don’t fire off the same message to a number of women. We can tell.
• Don’t sneak your contact details into your profile or your message subject line. Women do not respond to that. They simply report you and think you are cheap.
• Don’t approach a woman with a message saying ‘hi wanna chat’. Most don't. Some can't. Many won't.
• Don’t send a lengthy first message about yourself. Put what you want to say about yourself in your profile!
• Don't write in capitals, AS IT LOOKS LIKE YOU'RE SHOUTING!
• Never send a woman a picture of your private parts unless she is expecting it. Women don’t generally want to see a picture of your penis, even if you’re very proud if it. Keep it until you meet. Let her take her own picture if it's that great!
• Do not start explicit sex talk with a woman before you have been intimate with her, and even then, find out if that's what she likes. Start with being a gentleman and then, if it's appropriate you can be a cave man!

All these guidelines apply whether a woman is looking for a fling or a mate.

• Do keep your profile dynamic. If you’re not having much success, update your photo, or simplify your wording. It is easy for the more mature party to be quite intimidating without realising it.
• Do keep your list of dealbreakers down to the essentials. It shouldn’t be a list of all the things you’ve ever hated in your exes.
• Surprise a guy by making the first move. They'll be delighted.
• Make sure that your photo and your profile are aligned. If you upload a sexy photo (by that we mean low-cut dress because lingerie shots are not allowed) you’re going to get a sexy response; if that’s not what you want upload a head shot.

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Don’t Give out too Much Information

Fraudsters are very adept at getting information from you without you really realising it. It may sound obvious but never give out personal details about yourself such as your address, exactly where you work or financial details. If someone seems to be asking too many questions, be wary and only agree to give out your picture if they do the same. NEVER give or send them money and please inform us if anyone asks for money as this is strictly against our rules.

Be Sure they are who they Say they are

It is not only naïve teenagers that can be conned by people on the internet. Deceptions can be as innocent as posting a very flattering photo of themselves all the way to lying about being married or every aspect of their identity. It is difficult to really know if someone is lying, as those who do are often very good at it. There are a few steps you can take to try and regulate them though. Firstly get their phone number if you are agreeing to meet and ring it to make sure they answer. Anyone can set up an email address and it is difficult to trace. Also, ask a few questions about their family, career and home life. If they seem vague or contradict themselves this can be a good warning sign. You might also try looking for their profile on a social networking site.

Never Agree to Meet at Home

Like any blind date it is important that you meet in a public place where there are plenty of other people around. Never agree for them to pick you up or to meet at their house. There is plenty of time for that when you know more about them. Many happy couples have met online and it can be a rewarding experience. Just be aware of the lures of the internet and the ease by which people can obscure their true identity.

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Most of your profile questions are tick boxes, however in your basic info section there are 4 text input boxes:

What do your exes say about? This is meant to allow you to be witty and say something like "I wonder if she/he is free tonight."

A little bit of background about you: Here you don't need to write your life story but what you consider are the essential details about you: what you do for a living, what your interests are, what kind of person you are.

What are you looking for in the opposite sex? Put what kind of woman or man you are looking for, what are the qualities that you particularly like?

What are your dealbreakers? This is where you can be upfront and put smokers, if you know you would never date a smoker or anything else that you know would be a turn-off.

In answer to the question Why are you on TBW? you can put several answers. Some people are on TBW purely for a physical connection and some are looking for something more long-lasting. It's best to be upfront with what you want so that when you search your intentions are similar to the person you contact.

You can sign up and once your profile has been approved your free membership will be activated. As a free member you can search the database, send winks and cards and add someone to your hot list but you cannot directly contact other members. To do this you need to upgrade to Silver membership, which costs:

£6.50 for a week

£13 for 30 days

£32 for 3 months

£60 for 6 months

This also gives you access to the forums, the virtual bar, user walls, instant messaging and the functionality to add friends. We do not do recurring billing so when your Silver membership expires you will revert to free membership.

When a member sends you a message, it goes straight into your onsite message Inbox. We then send an email to your personal email address to let you know that it's there. To read the message, simply login to the site and go to your Inbox. If you decide to write back, simply click "reply", write your own message and click 'send'. Your message will go straight into the member's onsite Inbox, and we'll let them know it's there with an email to their personal email address.

All communications with other members stay onsite so that you never have to give out any personal information until you feel completely ready. Then when you are, you can exchange phone numbers and even meet in person.

Going away for a few days and don't want your profile to be seen while you are away? Go to 'My account' on the menu bar and click on 'Suspend membership'. You will then be given two options:

'Suspend and hide' and your profile will be hidden

'Temporarily off the market ;-)' and only your TBW friends will be able to message you

Please note that suspending your profile does NOT mean your Silver membership expiry date is prolonged.

Friends can instant message and add posts to your wall. If you want to add someone as a friend there are two ways of doing it:

when they come up in the search you can click on a button under their profile photo that says 'Add as a friend'.

you click on 'Add a a friend' within their profile page

The person as to approve your request before it is activated. The same applies if someone sends you a friend request.

Click on the little search icon ( a magnifying glass) on the top right hand corner and you'll be presented with 3 levels or search. You can search by username, basic options or advanced options. Start with the basic options and see what results you get, then if you want to refine that search add any advanced options.

As a man you will only see women minimum of a year older and as a woman you will only see men minimum of a year younger although you can adjust your search criteria to your own desires.

Please upload a headshot first. Then if you want to have a full length shot that should be second. Don't upload a shot of you and your pals as people won't know which is you. Don't upload a photo of your favourite football team or car as that is not going to entice people to want to meet you. No explicit photos will be approved and nor will headless torso shots. People want to see a face! Also as Silver members can add a caption, if they try to add their contact details into their caption their photo won't be approved.

Free members are allowed 2 photos and paying members 20.

The Virtual Bar is for group chat. It's like an online bar. You can access it either by going to your bottom bar menu and clicking on 'TBW Virtual Bar', or by going to your top bar menu and clicking on "Friends". This will show a drop down menu, with 'TBW Virtual Bar' being one of your options. Once you click on that, you find yourself in the main Bar. Add messages by typing text into the box below the image then press 'Send message' or press enter. You also have the choice of The Lounge Bar which you can access from the drop down menu to the right of the image. You can also create or join private chats via the buttons underneath the drop down menu.

You can chat privately, and remain in the bar at the same time.

When you are ready to leave the bar or private chat, please be sure to click on the red cross.

There are several criteria for not approving profiles:

• Explicit content, either text or photos
• Contact details in profile
• One or two word answers or insufficient answers
• Bad English
• Obviously not single!

There are very few reasons why we would terminate someone's membership:

• Being abusive to another member
• Asking for money from another member
• Revealed as a false profile
• Having 2 profiles on TBW