Hilarious! Which one are you?

Good Housekeeping v. Real Women

The Good Housekeeping Way #1
Stuff a miniature marshmallow in the bottom of a sugar cone to prevent ice cream drips.

The Real Women's Way
Just suck the ice cream out of the bottom of the cone, for God's sake. You are probably lying on the couch with your feet up eating it anyway.

The Good Housekeeping Way #2
To keep potatoes from budding, place an apple in the bag with the pot...

The other day my mother, 81, finally succumbed and went to the doctor to get some blood pressure pills; her first question was, “They’re not going to affect my libido are they?”  Her lover is 20 years her junior – which is probably what keeps her young. Sexual energy is a powerful and bonding force and often at the core of an older woman/ younger man relationship. However female sexuality has always been a contentious issue especially in a world that for millennia ha...

Valentine's Day isn't a day that should be dreaded. As a single person, it should be one that is embraced!

It is the month of love. Who better to solve your relationship woes than Katy Horwood and Suze Nowak?

My girlfriend dumped me in November after being together for 3 years because she met somebody else, and I’m really dreading Valentine's day. We always used to do something special and I can’t bear imagining her with her new boyfriend when I am on my own. I...

Life is wonderful. You are constantly out, the champagne is flowing and your life is being carefully documented through facebook photo albums. It limits the number of times you can wear the same outfit but apart from that all is well. I was very clear that I dated men that were older and had the weight and gravitas to ensure that I could always afford my black cab fetish.

Then you start to realise that there are fewer people to go out with. Couples complain it’s too cold or have...

We at TBW HQ have decided the time has come to open the site internationally, and so we now welcome registrations from outside Europe.

As this is a new thing, it will take a little time before the site is populated enough for new international users to actually "date", as it were. In the meantime, it's always great to make new friends. And Skype and Viber are excellent tools for keeping in touch across the miles.

We made this decision because we've had a lot of interest f...

No… not in the playground… but it feels a little like it.  When I first joined TBW, I kept fairly quiet about it for a while. I’d never dated anyone younger than me before, let alone much younger. I hadn’t been looking for younger; I was led to the site by chance and then was happily surprised by it. Younger men are just so much nicer than any man of my own age I’ve found on an internet dating site.  So, I gave them up… the other internet dating s...

Vena Ramphal is running a 28 day, online, self coaching programme starting on the 14th Feb. The theme is preparing yourself to be the best lover you’ve ever been. This is how she describes the programme:

I’ve collected some of my best, easy-to-use, coaching tips on preparing yourself body, mind and senses to be the best lover you’ve ever been. I want to make this accessible to as many people as possible so it costs just £10.

What you’ll getmore

I believe that being in a relationship gives you important life experience. It helps you grow. A lot of the life lessons I’ve learned have been during a relationship. But what happens when the partner in crime decides to break up? I’ve seen this happen to friends a few times. A distinct pattern shows to repeat itself over and over again.

The five stages of a breakup:

1.    Denial

It’s just a minor bump in the road. They know that ...

I received a compliment yesterday. Slightly backhanded admittedly but a compliment never the less. It was from a man online. I have recently signed up to a dating site; it was with the upmost of reluctance that I did this but was lulled back with a new PayPal widget meaning I didn’t have to get off my sofa, find my bag, find my purse, find my card and pay £25 to a site I didn’t even want to be on.
It is January, all hopes of my most recent ‘love’ interest bein...

Can age difference relationships work? Research adds a twist to why older woman seek out younger men. Theories state that from an evolutionary perspective, middle-aged women are "wired" to have more sex, especially with a younger, more virile man, because it is harder to get pregnant as she ages. So the more sex she has, especially with a younger man, the greater the chance of her getting pregnant becomes. Bear in mind that although mutually enjoyable sex is a major benefit within this type of r...

This gig came about through one of the last ones, which was when I went to see Evaline at the Bull and Gate in Kentish Town.

Among the audience members was Steve Forrest, who used to drum with Evaline - but, when there was a difference of opinion between he and the band's singer (I must confess, I can see why there would be a difference of opinion with the band's singer), he went his own way. Or, in his words, "they kicked me out". However, it was the best thing they did for him, as ...

No, not quite what you think! Four of us from TBW went to The Fiddler's Elbow in Kentish Town on Thursday December 22nd to see Bang Bang Romeo, a 3 piece ensemble from Doncaster. As they were the headliners, there were two acts on before them. The great thing about The Fiddler's Elbow is that one payment lets you see all the bands, unlike The Bull and Gate and the Dublin Castle. Like the Bull and Gate though, the beer is cheap. As is the vodka. Unlike the Bull and Gate, the staff can smile. They...

A very bright friend of mine had a very good idea a while ago. She prefers the company of  younger men, and noticing there was a gap in the market, and that she wasn't alone in her preference, decided to start a dating site called www.toyboywarehouse.com

Not only did this mean she would have a plentiful and delicious dose of eye candy direct to her inbox daily but that she would also give other hot chicks the opportunity to do the same. (Of course that’s not the sole reaso...

I had an unexpected call from an ex-boyfriend last night. I picked up unaware that it was him calling, having lost all my numbers from my phone recently and was surprised to hear from him presuming, after such an extended absence, that he had either died, married or moved to Tahiti. We chatted for a while about work, life and our plans for Christmas. After a recent break up he plans to spend the ‘big’ day with his parents up in Birmingham (and you thought working in a soup kitchen in...

TBW Founder, Julia Macmillan, is on the Morning After Show, talking about the furore between Caroline Flack and One Direction star, Harry Styles. The pair first sparked speculation of a romance back in October, when they shared a kiss and were caught on camera flirting during the reality series spin-off show broadcast on ITV2. Floppy-haired Harry was later quizzed about the tender moment, which can be seen in the video below, squirming awkwardly in his seat and failing to deny the accusation whi...

Men Confess: 22 reasons why younger guys fall for older women We at TBW HQ came across this insightful article on iVillage recently. 22 reasons, straight from the horse's mouth, as to why many men prefer older women. Here's an excerpt: In Older Women, Younger Men: New Options for Love and Romance, authors Felicia Brings and Susan Winter interviewed more than 200 men to discover the allure of the so-called "Mrs. Robinson syndrome." You'll be surprised at what men find appealing about older women....

On Friday 2nd December, some friends and I went to see a band called Evaline play at The Bull & Gate in Kentish Town.  This is one of my favourite venues to see bands, as it's big enough not to be all squashed up, and small enough to feel intimate. The beer is also cheap, which is a big plus, even if the staff are miserable. A few beers later and one ceases to notice anyway.  Evaline are a six piece ensemble from Modesto, California, whose sound has been likened...

Women who date and marry younger men is still a topic that gets people ringing and tweeting radio programmes in big numbers. I was on BBC 5 Live this morning at 7.40 talking about the fact that it is a growing trend and people should avoid stereotyping other people's relationships. Apparently so many people had opinions about this that they rang and asked me back at 9.15 (lucky I was still in bed!)  When I asked the producer what the general feel of the response was, she said hal...

I was chatting to a friend yesterday. She is single and in rather a quandary about why. My conclusion was not that she was too fussy but that her type was too specific. She had a very small age window to negotiate around. She likes her men tall, dark and yes you’ve guessed it handsome. What hope has the poor girl got? Must they play the mandolin and be fluent in Lithuanian too?  My advice was to broaden the spectrum. I’m not suggesting she dates a dwarf or gasp…. marries ...

There was article in last weekend's Observer about an American woman called Kate Bolick who had written a piece in Atlantic Magazine about that she, approaching 40, might never marry. It caused a stir and a lot of interest (30,000 'likes' on Facebook.) She's even been approached to turn her story into a TV series. Her piece is a profound insight into the shifting sands of society both in the US and in the UK and makes a very interesting read, especially for people who have found that marriage ha...

We've had a few articles recently about the benefits of an older woman, both in her allure and why it's beneficial to date one, so we thought we'd do something extolling the benefits of dating a younger guy. This is what we came up with.

Youth: When we say "youth", we refer more to the youthful spirit of younger guys than their youth in years. Older men can be jaded, bitter, tired, settled. The women that are attracted to younger men are young souls inside, therefore the negative asp...

A TBW guy agreed to share his story (all personal information from the session is strictly private & confidential)

A knock at the door and in walks an attractive man with a beaming smile and big sparkling brown eyes, he gives me a strong confident handshake and introduces himself.  On first impressions, it’s hard to see why he is sitting in my clinic.

In the session he speaks very well and confidently about his work, education and growing up with a loving sup...

Age gap relationships have been around since time began, the more common being an older man and younger woman, and these are generally pretty well received, unless the difference is insanely vast, or it's obvious the older man only has the company of his younger woman because of his bank balance.

The reverse - older women and younger men - hasn't always been so well received. Indeed, although it's occurrence is on the rise, as well as general acceptance of it, people are still all to...

What makes a younger man attracted to an older woman? And why does it look like this phenomenon isn't going to go away?

According to science, men shouldn't really be attracted to older women. Evolution has primed men to fancy the most healthy, fertile women. For 'healthy and fertile', science would have you read 'young'. Evolutionary biologists are adamant: men want to date women the same age or younger than themselves.
Which begs one simple question: why are so many men attrac...

Family meals, from a young age, unlike those outside the home, are opportunities for learning good manners, which is why many think that during meals one should avoid unpleasant conversations.

But harmony can easily be threatened when particular diets come into play.  .
Sometimes food can be used to argue, albeit on good part, about the different tastes of individual family members. The “table” is also the last chance left for mothers in-law to reign with their r...

The Brain is the Sexiest Organ

What we define as sexually arousing is so varied as to be difficult to put into words. However, the most arousing thing we humans have is our ability to think, to imagine and to feel.

Sex is not about touching genitalia. It is about getting aroused (and what you do with that arousal, of course). The brain is where all sensation is integrated and perceived and where imagination, thinking and doing come together.

Orgasms exist entirel...

I have a little secret.

It’s not a very interesting secret but it’s a secret never the less. Born out of the necessity of not wanting to deal with the ramifications of people knowing about it because of the society with live in.

I find older women attractive - and enjoy dating them.
(See not really that interesting at all.)

I told a close friend about this a while back who responded to me “but why?”
And that got me thinking - ...

We at TBW have many members who have spent time in Australia, are planning to spend time there, or hail from there, so when we came across this article, we just had to share! These were posted on an Australian Tourism Website and the answers are the actual responses by the website officials, who obviously have a great sense of humour.   Q: Does it ever get windy in Australia ? I have never seen it rain on TV, how do the plants grow? ( UK ) A: We import all plants fully grown and then just s...

Wendy Salisbury, one of our TBW members, has just published a novel! Her first novel, after the bestselling THE TOYBOY DIARIES, is set in the vividly evoked and heady atmosphere of 1960s Spain.

BLOOD ON THE SAND is a highly entertaining, raunchy and fast-paced drama as young Cassi Samuels sets out from swinging 1960s London into the arms of El Macho, the leading bullfighter of the day. From innocent virgin to abused wife living her life in the eye of the media, Cassi faces tragedy an...

A new site called www.radicaldiningsociety.com will launch on Nov 9th.  It is the brainchild of TBW founder, Julia Macmillan in collaboration with Richard Neat, founder of Pied-a-Terre and winner of 2 Michelin stars.  The idea is to create extraordinary food experiences for people, to surprise and delight not just their taste buds but all their senses. It's where food meets art and art meets food.  There are limited founder memberships available so if you would like to get one ple...

Whilst faffing about on Twitter, we came across this trending topic, #LiesPeopleAlwaysTell, and as many of them are used in the dating game, we thought we'd share it with you. Recognise any of them?   1. I love you. 2. I'll call you right back. 3. I lost your number. 4. My battery died. 5. I got a new phone and your number wasn't on my SIM 6. This is my last piece of gum/ cigarette/ rolo/ [insert here] 7. I was just about to say that. 8. I'll be there in 5. 9. I'm on my way (not left the ho...

Chime In
Just as we start to get used to Google + (well, some of us, and to some extent), up pops another social network hailed as the next best thing. 

And what's that, you ask? It's called Chime.in and it works like this: 

Like other social networks, Chime.in lets users share content with others. It has a newsfeed, profile pages and a system for following other users. The social network doesn’t have status updates, though. Instead it has “chimes...

What is a relationship? It could be said that because we are often brought up to see sex outside of a long-term serious relationship as wrong, we are either forced to commit or enter relationships we don’t really want to be in or to feel guilty for engaging in a casual relationship. When is a relationship a relationship? To want to spend our lives with one person (soul mate) is absolutely fine, if that is what we believe, to feel pressured into this ludicrous mentality, will leave us with ...

We all were born to love. Love is the start of the existence and its only aim” (Benjamin Disraeli) Love has got the power to recover, enlighten, unite and enrich both our spirit and body, but if you see how low the exchange of love is in the world, the question, “But where are those who really love?” can’t amaze us. Since the 80’s, the so-called decade of 'self', people approached love like a business transaction, where men and women were reduced to everyday objects...

On Friday 30th September, we wrote a news item about our response to the Daily Mail's article, written by Jan Moir, regarding Ashton Kutcher's recent philandering which Moir had blamed on Demi's age. Since then, there has been a bit of an outcry about the ludicrousness of this assumption. The latest, from the press itself, is from Vanessa Feltz and can be read here The latest from one of our TBW members can be seen online here; however, the blog article in full is as follows: I was incensed when...

One of the techniques I have created for my clients is called “Deathbed Regrets”. Having each client imagine they are departing from this world earlier than expected is a great way for them to discover their real passion. It may sound like a depressing exercise, but one that can wake you up before getting an unwanted “wake up call”! Listed below are the most common answers to those who have unfortunately had regrets on their deathbed, oddly enough the regrets are the same...

Advice for Your Business Our very own Julia Macmillan was interviewed by business community blogsite, Huddlebuy on what advice she'de give to people in business employing social media. Here is the article in full: Huddlebuy: Tell us who you are and what your business does. Julia Macmillan: Toyboywarehouse.com is an online dating community for women and younger men. There’s a lot more interaction that normal dating sites and we have more user generated content which creates g...

#BestThingAboutBeingSingle

This topic is currently trending on Twitter, so we thought we'd compile a list for you containing all the best things about being single.



You can do what you want, with who you want, when you want.
No dramas. Unless you create them.
Freedom.
You're richer on Valentine's Day.
You can keep the toilet seat down. Or up.
You don't have to answer to anyone, except yourself.
There's no broken heart to deal wi...

It's ok to be wrong. When we were in our teens and twenties, even our thirties, it was uncool to be wrong, and embarrassing.

It's ok to be alone. Relationships and friendships in our younger days tended to be all consuming affairs. If we were ever alone, it meant the relationship/ friendship was failing somehow. Now it's a sign we've grown and trust the relationship. It's also ok not to be in one.

It's ok to say no. Being unable to say no as our younger selves set us up fo...

We're always delighted to hear of the achievement of a TBW member and these days getting published is a real acheivement as the book publishing industry is in something of a crisis. Victoria Mosley (sirensong on TBW) has just had her book Moonfisher published, and so, as we know there are quite a few writers on TBW we thought we'd ask her to write some tips about gettting published. "My agent always told me that in order to get a novel published it took 95% perseverance and 5% talent.  Well...

Having just read another article  referring to the Blogger “Plankton”  and how she finds herself middle-aged and single and apparently at the bottom of sexual food chain, I am again amused and bemused by how she is finding it “out there”. It sounds both sad, lonely and bloody awful and I have to say the complete opposite of how its been for me.  
Of course there are times when I miss having a special man in tow and as I said in my previous blog live in...

This news article, by Suzanne Harrington, appeared in the Irish Independent on August 13th. As it's a great piece of writing, and very insightful, we thought we'd share it with you:

'On July 2, an anonymous blogger calling herself The Plankton uploaded her first post. The blogger, a middle-aged woman, says its title refers to where she views herself on the sexual food chain. Here's how it begins:

"As a divorced woman the wrong side of 45 with a brace of kids, I am a plankto...

If you've ever had to do public speaking it's unlikely that you've taken it in your stride. A survey recently found that some poeple would rather die than get up on a podium and talk to a lot of people. Well if that is the case check out this speech by J K Rowling from 2008 to Havard grads on 'the fringe benefits of failure.' It has to be one of the best speeches made to university graduates about to embark on real life. It is full of humour, compassion and wisdom, which J K obviously has in spa...

Not so long ago, if a female teacher had been found having a relationship with a pupil in her school she would have been fired immediately. Now perhaps attitudes are changing if people see how both parties can benefit and give each other happiness and support. A recent example of this was reported in Fort Worth. Texas High School science teacher Lorraine Belmont, 33, and sophomore Matthew Clark, 16, have reportedly begun a sexual relationship that observers have described as being actually somew...

I've just returned from a weekend in Geneva. It's a city I hadn't visited before as I always thought there were more exciting places to go but as I have friends there I felt it was time for a visit. It isn't a town that's at the top of My most happening place list but it certainly has its charms. It's relatively small without being provincial as it has a large international community and more than anything, is wonderful in the summer. On the down side, I think it's probably the most expensive to...

Whilst messing about on Facebook one day, we came across this fabulous little article by blogger and style expert, Bridgette Raes. As we at TBW HQ love to encourage older women to revel in their beauty and the wisdom that comes with age, we thought it would be a perfect item for the site and so sought Bridgette's permission to use it. She very kindly granted it, and here it is: "Helen Mirren voted ‘Body of the Year.’ Meanwhile Designers Using 13 Year Olds in Ad Campaigns Every mornin...

There's been quite a lot of talk recently about the change in Shane Warne's appearance from overweight, beer-drinking, sporty guy to manicured, some say even botoxed, slimmed down man-about-town. It seems he has gone from one end of the hetero/metro scale to the other. This was reported in The Evening Standard:
Warne, 41, has always been famed for his macho image but has adopted a more metrosexual approach since dating Liz Hurley. Warne even faced speculation he had undergone Botox injecti...

We’ve had a few discussions on our forum lately suggesting that we aren’t (here at TBW HQ) high-lighting men’s points of view enough. We’ve always tried to get away from the stereotype of the older woman seeking a younger man and the younger man seeking an older woman, which tends towards a picture of a purely physical liason and only emphasizes the younger man’s physical attributes. The truth is much more complex, and interesting. The fact is that a lot of me...

At some point every story sounds the same… Well not quite the same. There are always variant themes, dependent upon one’s latest adventure, but in the end it’s like one series too many of a former favourite TV show. In other words, you’re better off with the odd one-off special now and again to stop familiarity breeding inevitable contempt. Thus my friends it’s time to say au revoir (but not goodbye; as per the aforementioned occasional return). Ironically this is...

I’m in a long-standing relationship with the fear of commitment.
 
Really, it’s true. I’m not quite sure when this liaison begun, but we’ve been together for quite some time.
 
And like some couples feel that they’re halves of one another, I too feel that my lack of inclination to commit, is part of who I am. I talk about it, candidly and without the slightest hint of confession: “I like martinis, served dry. I don’t like co...